I believe that while most people get angry, that it should not be necessary to lose control of oneself. Certainly, I have gotten very angry at times in my life, and may have also lost control due to that consuming anger. However, it takes a stronger person to maintain control, than it does to allow yourself to blow up.
The Bible says that it's OK to get angry, but not OK to resort to calling a person names, such as stupid, dummy, or even worse. It is much like a person who may have been challenged to fight, in school perhaps. I certainly had a few bullying types attempt to egg me on, so I would fight them. While I certainly did not back-off, or run away, I did stand up for what I thought to be right. If I saw my older sister being hit, or attacked, then I went into action. I told bullies that I did not believe in or want to fight. At first some of them called me "chicken," "thinking that would challenge me to take the bait. I simply let them know that while I did not want to fight, That I certainly knew how to finish it if they chose to hit me first.
Over the years, I have learned ways to dealing with anger, such as just leaving the scene, or conversation if someone just wants to argue, for the sake of arguing. I do not choose to waste my time in a battle of wits with an unarmed person.
|Cooling Off In Order?|
|Do Something |
You Love Doing
|Basketball With a Friend|
There are really many harmless ways ti refresh yourself if you need to "cool off." Many times over the years, I would ride my horse. It redirects your thoughts, and gets you thinking about something else entirely. Riding a horse, especially when you are putting them through their training or practice lessons, requires your full attention, and if you are a mess, so will your horse be irregular in it's functionality and movements.
|Surfing Will Cool You Off|
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Take some time to think things over